When this happens it can be felt in your bones. When values about key work and life issues don’t align conflict is not far away . However as I read more Deep Democracy notably Myra Lewis I am intrigued by what she calls mining the gold from conflicts.
A culture of invalidation, denial and dismissal is a mere symptom of suffering the system is under.
Feed your self first, validate , listen to and improvise with your children remember they are only children for a short while.