When our daughter makes a statement to Lara or I we mirror and repeat it. We validate it. But what if we did not? What if we criticized her? What if we ignored her? What might happen?
So if we have a chance to slow spoken communication down is there chance to mirror and validate? Is there a chance to take a Rogerian approach to these events? The mirror of validation is nothing new as it has been around in therapeutic circles since Carl Rogers created the humanistic movement. Chris Voss FBI negotiator reincarnated it this year in his book Never Split The Difference.