We often gloss over how much socialization is coded into us at home or even scripted in keeping with TA. That does not mean it is etched in stone rather there is a tendency for behavior to evolve due to that early exposure to whatever.
My focus here is the workplace and drama issues from an emotionally violent environment. I will get into blind spots for a later post but take a second and think about this. When you are on the receiving end of abuse and cutting remarks think about that person as a child the the abuse and emotional neglect they must have been subject to. Also think of the sadness they suffer.