This question goes beyond the basics of math, spelling and reading. It even surpasses I am good at english, engineering or medicine. What do I know? I know that I need self compassion first. I know that I need to be validated and loved first. By who? Or whom? Me. Life is far too short for me to be kicking my ass when there are others lined up to do it for me. So I go easy. Easier said than done?
See here self compassion