Monthly Archives: November 2016

Everyday Invalidations Agenda And Context

Just today I am learning the other peoples agenda’s are sometimes embedded in the context in which they operate.  So I need to gain better awareness of that.  

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Everyday Invalidations The Anatomy Of An Insult

I give this to you dear readers as my unintended gift.  I made a comment on a facebook picture today that seemed quite innocuous but it was not.  I was publicly called out as a jerk and then hunted down … Continue reading

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Everyday Invalidations That Yuk Feeling

” Excuse me but I was wondering if you could adjust the heat in the office it is really hot in here.”  said the person. “Just close your curtains.”  said the invalidator with a contemptuous roll of the eyes. The … Continue reading

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Everyday Invalidations Thought

I think that invalidations are every where but people are not anticipating or prepared for them.  That means they have the potential to hurt that much more.  

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Everyday Invalidations No And More No

Some people can’t take a NO.  I used to be one of those people.  And now I anticipate a NO and have planned counter measures to redirect that energy.  I am not immune to how some NO’s can hurt and … Continue reading

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Everyday Invalidations Who Are You Today?

Are you a: Victim: helpless no choice Rescuer: guilt ridden enabler no choice Persecutor: oppressive controller no choice Roles and definitions from the Karpman Drama Triangle DRAMA Or Are you a: Creator: aware of power to choose personal response to life … Continue reading

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Everyday Invalidations What Do You Know?

This question goes beyond the basics of math, spelling and reading.  It even surpasses I am good at english, engineering or medicine.  What do I know?  I know that I need self compassion first.  I know that I need to … Continue reading

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