Monthly Archives: October 2016

Everyday Invalidations You Read Too Much.

Educate yourself but try not to play the “Mr. Know It All” game in a meeting with a manager or a team meeting.  It could get messy.  Most people are very insecure especially ignorant managers. Read and get smart about … Continue reading

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Everyday Invalidations More on Emotional Hostage Taking

Held for ransom.  The currency of payment is control or the illusion of control.  I have been and continue to read and review literature related to terrorist hostage taking, and crisis hostage taking to provide a bit more context around … Continue reading

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Everyday Invalidations Control isn’t power (part 1)

(If you’re new to Monkeytraps, Steve is a therapist who specializes in control issues, and Bert is Steve’s control-addicted inner monkey. That’s Bert at the left, looking powerfu… Source: Control isn’t power (part 1)

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Everyday Invalidations Surrender: An interview with Bert

(If you’re new to Monkeytraps, Steve is a therapist who specializes in control issues, and Bert is his control-addicted inner monkey. For this post,  Steve interviewed Bert.) Steve:  So IR… Source: Surrender: An interview with Bert

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Everyday Invalidations What Is Happening Here?

I think that it is important that I provide a thumbnail sketch of what I am trying to do here day in and day out.  My motive is to provide awareness, a very detailed awareness of a small and important … Continue reading

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Everyday Invalidations The Last Word

Who has the last word?  At work?  In team meetings?  During informal chats?  Who needs to have the last word?  Any why? My working hypothesis is control and attachment to a reality and an outcome the person is seeking to … Continue reading

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Everyday Invalidations So What, Who Cares!

This is a classic used from the schoolyard to the boardroom. One of the ultimate shut downs and idea killers “So what, who cares!” Can be worse than a good dose of Strychnine to put thoughts and ideas to death … Continue reading

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