Why don’t you …….
Emotional invalidation’s live in the calm waters of everyday conversation as well the pitched and heat battle field of confrontation and conflict.
Why don’t you …..is a harmless suggestion cloaked as a change command. It can take the life out of the counter party like a punch to the gut. Why don’t you is about a change in thinking, behaving, and feeling that aligns with your controlling counter party. The easier it is for them to control and coerce through cloaked advice then more
Deception, manipulation. And coercion will be in store down the road