I am to the point of pursuing states of grace and leaving the triangle of co-dependence. I am becoming an observer rather than victim, rescuer of persecuter. When I step into the observer role I am balanced, calm and happy. Neither adding to or taking from the event that I am watching. I have invested a lot of time and energy in the victim and rescuer role. It has the power to kill a person when we are emotional and social slaves to other peoples shortcomings.